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All Alone

Posted on 4/04/2011 by admin

Our lives were turned upside down, yet no one could see that. There was no one who was willing to listen or support us, not even my own family. I was completely isolated.

Along with our lives being turned upside down, there was the threat of our futures being completely messed up as well, had it not been for the support I received at Mosac, I wouldn’t have been able to get the strength together to turn our lives around and to be able to look to the future.

 The isolation and stress over the past 2 years had made me not want to go on living.

Had that have happened then it would not have been fair on the children, they would not have just lost one parent but two, and it would have completely devastated an already painfully hurt little girl i.e. my daughter, who believed that her father no longer living with us was all HER fault. If I wasn’t there as well then she would have gone on blaming herself and thinking it was all her fault. 

She was already having problems at school in terms of her behaviour and her education; she was also suffering from very low self-esteem and thought she was rubbish. 

This would have been so difficult for her to deal with. 

The anger and distress she was already displaying may well have become worse, but having had play therapy with Mosac and for me to be supported has helped for my daughter to improve her behaviour at school and in her education. It has helped her to realise that she is NOT rubbish, and that the way our lives have changed is definitely not her fault.

I feel that I have got the sweet, kind, thoughtful little girl back who I had lost.

Mosac has helped me to help myself, to be strong enough to turn our lives around and come through this. I am currently training to become a teacher. Mosac has helped us to try to survive, if we hadn’t then the abuse and the abuser would have won. 

Our already difficult and painful journey would have been more so.

Thank you all so much, for everything you have done, hope that you will carry on doing the great work you have been doing. 

God Bless You All.

Sana

Just Wanted To Say

Posted on 20/09/2010 by admin
I just wanted to say, in response to this entry, “don’t give up hope”. Taking this through the Family Court is an uphill struggle, but Courts can be persuaded to make an Order for no contact, even if the CPS decide not to prosecute.

My children are 14 and 10 years old now. When my son was 7 he made a clear allegation of abuse against his father, my husband. After a six week wait, the CPS decided not to prosecute. After an 18 month wait, the police found pornography on my husband’s computers and titles which suggested that files may contain sexual images of children , but he had installed special software to cover his tracks and the police did not have the software necessary, resources, time etc to look behind it. So again a decision was made not to prosecute. However, the Family Court Judge ordered that an independent IT expert should examine the computers (at my expense) and carry out ‘keyword searches’. The expert found over 100,000 sites containing images of bestiality, rape, incest, bondage, so called “Lolita” sites and that he belonged to a ‘Club’ sharing this material. (more…)

We need to move away

Posted on 20/09/2010 by admin
My daughters boyfriend thought I knew all along and was happy to accept.

Last December 19th my daughter was having her Christmas night out with her friends from college. She had been staying with her grandpa as it was easier to get to college from his house. At around 5pm my Dad phoned to say she had arrived home safely but was very drunk. Later, maybe 6 or 6.30 she
called me asking for help. My husband and I got in the car and travelled down to my Dad’s house laughing about how we must have brought her up well since she was asking for assistance where we would have been too ashamed to ask for help when we were drunk. She was 18 years old.

When I went in to her bedroom I thought she was sleeping at first and just bent over to check her out then she said ‘Mum, I need to tell you something.’  She was crying, I was frantic, out of my depth, my husband was in the living room with my Dad – oblivious to any of what was to transpire next. (more…)

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